(O/T) Please read, urgent. At least to me.

[Bartman]

Well it was bound to happen sooner or later. I got a crush on someone at my school.



I started off by writing letters to her and sticking them in her locker.



So far she has replied to 3 out of 4 Of the letters. The first one didnt get to her...oh well thats over with.



And shortly after, I finally had the courage to talk to her. But the problem is...she is kind of quiet. Perhaps shy if you will, when she talks to me. She doesnt really seem like she's a talkative person. She kind of sits there and looks around when nothings really going on. (Hay just like what I would do, eheh) I guess she doesnt have many friends...



This is where I need opinions/advice. How can I convince her to try to participate in a conversation? Or should I stick with the letter writing?



I hope its not me...we'll just have to wait and see I guess.



And I better act fast. The end of the year is near...and I dont wanna lose her...



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- Bartman

[JelZe GoldRabbit]

OK, the first thing is, don't do anything hasty. Since she's quiet or maybe shy, you'll have to be extra carefull. Try to comfort her a bit, let her know she can trust you.



Rats, dinner time...i'll give you some more advice when i get back http://jazz2.nagcentral.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[JelZe GoldRabbit]

OK now, where were we? O yes...



I would stick to notes for a little while, but that's your choice, not mine. Invite her for a little chit-chat after a while. If she wants to talk, she'll come for sure. Or maybe not. Anyway, don't force her.

[Admael]

Well, I should be an expert on this, considering I'm both shy and female. :-) I'd stick to letter-writing as long as you can bear it, but maybe you could write her a letter asking her if you can sit by her at lunch, or something like that. If she doesn't talk, it's probably not you. She's probably just nervous around people, like I am. Don't crowd the conversation, but try to find out her interests. If you're both interested in a certain kind of music or something... she'd be more likely to talk to you. Well, that's all I got. Best of wishes! :-)



-Ad

[Bartman]

Actually I tried asking her questions at times to try to get her to talk.



Maybe I should ask her :what else she likes besides sports and computer stuff...like favorite TV shows or favorite music.



I hope she doesnt find out that I like her immediatley. I mean, lets face it, people are gonna feel nervous when they first tell them (Especially if they dont like them either) Some fake friends of mine are probably gonna mess around with me and her and blow the thing out of proportion...



Well lets all hope for the best...



Well thanks for the ideas folks, keep 'em comming!

[SpeedyGPW]

Yeah, I need some advice too..



Ever since I've come into 6th grade, I've become a totally different person. I cuss more than I should (I shouldn't cuss anyway), I used to be more intillectual and more concerned about school work, but now I'm just not acting like myself, or am I? I mean, like people try to get into arguments and like they'll say stuff like (g*y F-a-double-guh-ot or "you H*mp ur momma") and I used to wouldn't try to reply with the same type of insult, but now I do. I've also become a more obnoxious person. So I need to change, but the environment around me won't let me. This way, girls will start to hate me, I won't be the smart intellectual person that people respect, (because that's the only thing I've got, my smarts and computer knowledge) and soon I won't be anyone popular, but I won't even be accepted by my friends. And also, I'm a christian, and I know that you aren't supposed to hate your neighbor, but I just can't control myself, and I say stuff/do stuff (not including beating up people) that I usually wouldn't do to other people.

[Ducky]

Ah, that happened to me. I wrote letters to someone for ages. But then I found out that he apperently didn't like me in the least, so...



But I think Admael had the best ideas. I don't really know what to say :P

Eh, sorry.

`Ducky

[Batty Buddy]

Que Passa!!!!



Your in luck, Bartman, I just got through a adult education course called 'How to be irrisistable to the opposite sex' hosted by a woman who wrote a book with the same title(If you can find that book, and get your hands on it, thats a good first step.) Anyway, I've been looking through the book, and I think your love notes are a good idea, BUT DON'T OVERDUE IT!!! Try to keep your notes down to under 8, and use them spairingly, then try to arrange a meeting place in one of the notes.

Later on, if you need them, the books got a few flirt tips, pick up lines, conversation topics, etc. I could mention.

(By the way, it should also be stated that I just had a girl flirt with ME a few days ago. It's catching. /\http://jazz2.nagcentral.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_wink.gif/\)



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"I seem to be the vary personafication of the rage to live- hit me, dunk me, insult me, I'll still hang in there.



-I wonder why."

-Howard the Duck



(RIP William Hanna)

[Admael]

I had the same problem in the 6th grade, Speedy. I didn't curse really, but I had problems with being mean to people. It helps to have something on you to remember you're a Christian (like a cross necklace, WWJD bracelet, whatever), and it also helps to pray throughout the day. Also, try to stop and think before you reply. They will still make fun of you (they do so to everyone), but it'll help you feel less crummy about yourself.



NO PICK-UP LINES! Bad, bad, bad, bad idea! Just try to be friends for as long as you can manage. And don't ask her on a date or whatnot unless she seems to be at least a little fond of you. It'll make her feel guilty, and lessen any chances her returning your feelings. Try starting a topic of conversation in your letters... it might help her get to talking to you more. If the end of the year comes, and you're still not "together"... give her your e-mail, or some other means of communication. You really cannot rush this sort of thing.



-Ad

[Bartman]

Well I gave her my E-Mail today.



She didnt give me a note back yet (Usually I get one at the end of the day. Oh well I got one like 3 days ago and it was a good letter.



Perhaps she'll give me an E-Mail herself? Probably.

Perhaps I should wait till tommorrow or next week (Because tommorrow is Friday)



Bu---hay whats this?



It looks like a phone number...



Uh oh...hopefully its fake or something.



Uhh....



Whats that web site thingy to where you can check a persons phone number, address or something?



God I hope its fake...or else Im gonna get really nervous...

[Bartman]

Oh wait, this phone number is from one of my guy friends.



Ah yeah now I remember.



Oh well *Throws the paper away*



Good thing that wasnt her too. Or I would've been reeeeeeeallllly nervous.

[UrbanMenace]

Ummm...wait...I'm confused



Ahhh, ignore me, I'm stupid...



btw, the above was not actually meant, I'm not that depressed (most of the time) it was a light hearted comment. Or something

[WhiteFang]

Sppeedy: It's very important to go your own way and not let your live lived by others. If your friends wont respect you the way you want to be, then maybe they aren't your real friends and I'm sure there are other boys who will be your friends when you are your real self... I know this is easier said then done and I learned these things when I got older, but it is important to be yourself and don't "make" yourself on ideas of others...

By the way, people (girlzzz) like it when a boy is just his real self and not being some one he is not, because of his friends... http://jazz2.nagcentral.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[Bartman]

Hmm, she hasnt sent me an E-mail yet.



Perhaps shes sending a sign that she wants to talk to me in person again? Or should I wait for a letter to come in my locker?



If I dont get one Monday i'll ask why she hasnt replied to the letter yet. (Hmm....either that or ask if she got it...although the last one took like 2 days for her to reply...or was it 3....oh well...)







Oh and btw, I dont really believe in pick-up lines myself...they dont really have any stabability and is rushing yourself...



Well what should I do?

[~SPLASH~]

yeah ask her why she didnt reply

(and when she says she didnt get it, say u have sent something and u really dont like it that she didnt get it cos u really like her...

k thats a whole thing confessed within a minute, eh?)

[Bartman]

I cant just tell her that I like her. Thats for later on in life...if everything goes right that is...

[Admael]

Good choice, Bartman. Rushing it on her will only make her feel uncomfortable.



-Ad

[Batty Buddy]

Que Passa!!!!



Hope it turns out well, Bartman.



Anyway, about the pick-up-line thing, that was purely a suggestion. Actually when most people think about pick up lines,they think about those lude comments used in bad comedies. They are, in fact, just an extention of flirting- just letting someone know you like them. In reality, accourding to the book, there is a right way to do it and a wrong way.



Also, there is 1 more piece of advice. In the event that, God forbid, it doesn't work out- say she already has a boyfriend, or doesn't feel ready for that kinda thing, just think- 'well, that was a good try, anyway.' and, most importantly, try to be calm about it. (BOY, if Charlie Brown had this book, his love problems would be over.)



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"I seem to be the vary personafication of the rage to live- hit me, dunk me, insult me, I'll still hang in there.



-I wonder why."

-Howard the Duck



(RIP William Hanna)

[Bartman]

Well I finally talked to her, she said that she couldnt answer it...(And its been past a weekend too...oh well, I'll never know...)



I said that I would like to talk to her over it at lunch...but she said that she had dentention...



But there was one flaw in what she said: She didnt have detention during lunch (And yes we have Lunch D-hall) I "confronted" her. But she said that she didnt want to talk during lunch.



I hope it doesnt mean that she found out that I like her and she wants to avoid me...



Ack...I need an idea on what to do. If she says that she still doesnt want to talk. Then I guess it'll all be over... :/



Well everyone cross your fingers for me please.

[Tubz]

O dang I just had to reply to this. I'm Male and I liked girls at school. I was too nervous to talk to them. But one girl I sorta like is my friend. I'm in my 1st year of High School. The School Year is almost over too. And yet there are girls who are older than me that I like.



Sorry BMan but I have no advice since I am sorta in your shoes.

[Tubz]

Good Luck for you BMan, for if she doesn't exactly Like Like you it might still be okay if she likes you as a friend. Heck it's better than nothing?!

[Tubz]

Yeah Speedy cussing is a problem, I try not to the worst I said was and the stuff I stick to are H*ll, D*mn, & S*it. But theres this stupid Ugly as heck Orange Haired 17 year old girl who Smokes. And she Bullies me, she started with me first. And I am having problems getting rid of her how do I

exactly get rid of her? I never really sent Love Letters to a girl I liked, I would even know what to say!

[Tubz]

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[Bobby aka Dizzy]

Please stay on topic Tubs. Just because this is misc doesn't mean you go off topic like that.

[Bartman]

Problemmm...



I think one of my "friends" has scared her and made her think that I'm one of those freaky farting ogres at my school.



Because at lunch, she didnt sit where she normally sits (and havent seen her there)



Great, now she thinks im too eager (sp?)



Well I better sit back and wait for what happens...

[Bartman]

Crud!



Crud! Crud! Crud!



Now I figured out why I scared her off! It was because I put in my E-Mail address in one of my letters!



*Bangs head on desk repeatedly*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Does anyone know how to fix this?



And now back to the head beating...





Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



Why?!?



*Bangs Head*



etc...



Please help!

[Violet CLM]

Out of curiosity, is the desk still in one piece?

[Ducky]

Also out of curiosity, whats wrong with your email address?

`Ducky

[~SPLASH~]

does she now think u are a nerd?

*KICK THE LITTLE FREAK! CHAAAARGE!!!!!!!*



there...

what's so wrong with putting in an email adress? she can contact u that way right?

[Michael]

I don't have any advise but I could counger up some advise. Why do you like her?

[Bartman]

I finally thought of it.



I guess she's just not interested in a guy like me.



By the way she already knows I'm a nerd. And I'm proud of being one too!



Anyway she probably thinks I'm crazy for her or something. Which I'm not. Not even when I laid eyes on her.



Maybe near the end of the year I should talk to her one more time. (And try to tell her that I would want to at least be friends)



I do admit that I dont really like her...at least not as I did a little earlier (Which wasnt much :P)



Oh well if she just doesnt want to see me again I dont care. That means I'm single again! Oh goody! More years of freedom before I have to buy stuff for my girlfriend http://jazz2.nagcentral.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_wink.gif



(Whoever it is, I guess I'll have to wait.)



(Btw Splash, I was afraid she might think that its like a phone number...eep.)



It is nice that she doesnt want to say: Im not interested. But she's going to have to come through sometime...



Anyway what should I say? (I gotta say the right thing though)

[WhiteFang]

Poor Bartman...

You'll find other girls and sometimes your like, sometimes your not...

[DrJones]

I think you gave up to soon, but that's just my point of view.